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The Fear of Everything

Discussion in 'Mindset and Motivation' started by T J Tutor, Mar 28, 2016.

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  1. T J Tutor

    T J Tutor Member

    Fear of Losing
    Fear of Loss
    Fear of Failure
    Fear of Rejection
    Fear of Being Judged by Others
    Fear of Being Scammed
    Fear of Looking Bad
    Fear of the Unknown
    Fear of Embarrassment
    And the list goes on....

    Embracing fears of any kind is simply a way out of taking action, taking risks, and taking responsibility. To do so results in a repetitive pattern that is self reinforcing and completely debilitating. This is a form of "perpetual recombination". Every time one reaffirms a fear, thereby giving it validation, it recombines into a larger and stronger form of itself. Over long term, it is debilitating to the point where one never takes action because they have been so indulged in the thoughts of fear that the fear becomes a "notion of reality" and simulates that of genuine reality.

    Fears that prevent one from taking action, and from being responsible, begin to manifest in other parts of ones life until the lines between false fears and reality become a "notion of reality" in all other areas of a person's life.

    There is a way out, completely and totally from these false realities of fear. A false fear is a manifested fear not based in fact. Fear of failure, for example, is a false fear. You see, a fear of failing causes more damage than failing itself. Failing at something is simply a revelation of what not to do. Becoming committed to the false fear reinforces the false fear and continues to perpetuate itself. When you fail at anything, simply do what an engineer or a scientist does, they develop a new approach. They start again, and continue until they find the successful path.

    Learn to expect failure in your life and business. It is unavoidable and you must accept it as a part of growth in any part of life and business. We as businessmen and women have high failure rates with methods, strategies, tactics, and skills, especially in the beginning. It is part of one's learning curve. It is part of the Newbie experience as well as the most experienced of us. When we, as entrepreneurial business people, are doing what others do not, we must expect the unexpected and we must have extreme confidence that continuing to push on will continue to show us the "diamonds in the rough"!

    I recently watched a Ryan Deiss video discussing these topics with an audience of Newbies. He continually related that, on average, when they push the limits of going to where others have not, in order to create campaigns no one else has created as yet, their failure rate is as high as 95%. However, when they find that 5%, or 10%, or 15% that works, they refine it, strengthen it, test it in every way, and then scale up the new and improved versions of their campaigns throwing big money at them until they run out of steam.

    I write this for you (as Newbies) because I read in our forums every day that members are being stopped dead in their respective tracks by these fears and when I look back at their activity in the forums I see an abundance of them that do not push on and end up quitting before they ever get truly started.

    My message to all of you as Newbies is that any fears about getting into this business are false, they are not real, they are manifested from others that have these fears. Detach yourself from anyone and everything that tries to get you to indulge fear in any way.

    Tell yourself you will have failures, it's part of every business on the planet. Tell yourself you will find the channels to success by only embracing those who are successful and positive in their thinking. Tell yourself that you will have to work at it, but you will find the joy in the successes as they reveal themselves to you. Tell yourself to never expose yourself to the negativities of those who do not share your positive commitment to your successes.

    You all have championships in your future as long as you are committed to your winning the long game!

    "You don't have to be great at something to start, but you have to start to be great at something." Zig Ziglar
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  2. Nancy

    Nancy Member

    That is great advice @T J Tutor. I wish I had known all this when I was young and first starting in business. It took me years to build up the courage and confidence that I have now. So many missed opportunities because fear of the unknown!!

    I must admit, when I was reading over your list of fears at the beginning of your post I thought it was going to be about social anxiety!! I suppose that is just a technical name for fear of the unknown. :)

    My children and I read lots of biographies and autobiographies. We have learned that most successful people have many failures before they succeed. Some are considered total failures and believed they are mentally disabled or will amount to nothing, yet go on to be some of the most successful people in history.

    I when I am fearful I ask myself 'what is the worst possible outcome?'. If I really think it through, the worst outcome is usually not that bad. :D
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  3. puneeth8994

    puneeth8994 Member

    Fear is one of those awful negative emotions that drains down anyone's confidence. As @T J Tutor stated, you see yourself facing down with 10s of variations of fear. I usually try to just get things over with to avoid any amplification in my fear, that usually works and gives a good rush of adrenaline to finish it as well.
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  4. Slique

    Slique Member

    @T J Tutor Words of wisdom truly spoken here. I share your sentiments as I too sometimes allow fear to take me over, whether it be fear of failure or fear of people not taking me seriously about what I want to do in life. It's not that I don't believe in myself, it's more I don't believe in myself as much as I probably should in order to experience each step of the journey to the end goal without any fear. Fear can become crippling and we end up stunting our own growth and throwing away dreams that could change our lives for the better. If only we could just let go and live a little, huh?! Somethings are much easier said than done but if we want to be truly happy with ourselves and what we choose to do, we must learn to let go of fear.

    Tell yourself: Your life depends on this. Do it! ;)
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