Goals are essential but without will power and resolve, these goals will probably fall by the wayside. If you feel like you do not have a lot of will power right now, it’s ok. This can and should be developed by setting small goals and sticking with them.

Good habits like daily exercise, brushing your teeth and things of this nature are beneficial to you. Bad habits enslave you and keep you in bondage.

In eliminating bad habits you cannot just declare that when New Year’s Day comes, you will start fresh. That doesn’t work. Your resolve has to come deep from within you. You have to come to a place in which you really WANT to change. You have to use reason in determining what is best for you. You have to declare that you are your own master and can choose the actions you take. You have to be bold in that way. Here are some tips:

· Use reason first in dealing with bad habits and when a negative urge presents itself, remind yourself that you are your own hero and quickly envision yourself as someone free from that habit.

· Stay away from negative people, things or influences that indulge in or present the negative habit.

· Replace the negative habit with something you enjoy that is wholesome. For example, if you like to snack on a bag of processed chips, perhaps snack on a banana instead.

· Get up, get out, go for a short walk and focus on any nature you can. Maybe you have a habit of having a beer or two in the evening and you have decided that this is no longer who you want to be. Try going outside in the fresh air and going for a short walk. Walking seems to make people feel better. Just the physical act alone gets the blood flowing and the mind working more clearly. Focusing on nature, like any trees or small animals you encounter, take your mind to a more natural, healthy state. When a negative urge comes, remember to “Get up and get out.” Clear your mind with a short walk.

· Remember that it gets easier. Keep in mind that you won’t always be as tempted as you are in the beginning. In a month or two, it will be easier for you.

· Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t give up on yourself. If you fall into your old habits, always try again no matter what. Don’t give up. People usually give up too early.

· Keep a mental picture of the kind of person that you want to be. See yourself as healthy and free.

I don’t know you but I believe in you because I believe in the potential for anyone to make good, positive changes. If you haven’t developed your will power and you feel that you are weak, do not give up. It takes practice but it can be developed. Of course for serious addiction problems, you might seek professional advice.

Develop your will power bit by bit by following your heart, using reason and by being determined.
[ This is taken from my book, "How to Create Your Own Happiness: the Complete Guide (New Strategies, Age-old Concepts and Practical Tips) by Shannon D. Smith ; available on amazon if anyone is interested]


Its always good to think about your life goals once per month and rethink them. It seems that at one point my goals totally changed because I changed my way of thinking and my priorities. Look forward to read more of your posts
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